“ For ye have the poor always with you; but me ye have not always.,” Matthew 26:11 However, I want to look at the naysayers and how to deal with them.
1. Acknowledge, but don’t react.
As much as we would love to send some of these to Gitmo for vision espionage, we simply don’t have that authority … sadly. But, if we give their voice weight, they will keep looking for opportunities to complain.
Naysayers and complainers don’t have a desire to help in what they say, they are looking for a platform that will hear them and respond. It makes them feel empowered.
It doesn’t matter if you satisfy their complaint, they will find something else because they aren’t looking for a solution, they are looking power. So don’t give it to them.
Acknowledge what they’ve said, be kind and gentle, but don’t promise or change something in response to their complaint. If you do, it will be like Crack, they will run you down for another snort, they get high on that feeling!
2. Answer by pointing them to the vision.
This is the best way to retrain (if possible) some of the complainers. Have a simple, but powerful vision. And when they begin to point out how things need to be changed, acknowledge what they said, but then immediately turn the conversation to the impact of the vision. (You see, where there is no vision the people perish for lack of wisdom).
Talk about the transformation of lives yet to come, remind them of where the church is going and its heart.
“The music is too loud.” Really? I’ll check on that, but isn’t it great how our music makes worship more engaging for so many different people! Those are the ones that Jesus wants us to reach, I’m glad you are a part of helping those find Jesus here.
3. Ask them to leave.
This is the last resort, but sometimes you just have to make that move. Sure, you can keep trying to keep them “happy” and there, but they’re sucking the life out of you and killing your vision. Sometimes you just have to cut loose the religious to reach the unchurched. Be gentle, but don’t leave to doubt what’s happening.