God holds pastors to a higher standard of living and a higher standard of judgment. (A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach. 1 Timothy 3:2) and (My brethren, be not many masters, knowing that we shall receive the greater condemnation. James 3:1). If you are worried that your pastor is in some way not living up to the standards God has called him to, know that God is handling the situation. God will not allow a pastor to misrepresent Him for long. Pray for a change of heart in your pastor and know that God is taking the situation seriously. Ask God to guide you on whether there is anything you need to do, but refrain from gossiping about your pastor. Gossip has a tendency to make problems where there were none, to begin with, or to exacerbate existing problems. Gossip never helps.
The Bible calls us to respect those in ministry leadership. 1 Timothy 5:17 says, “Let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of double honour, especially they who labour in the word and doctrine.” Rather than gossip or complain about your pastor and his family, seek to be encouragement and support. Respect your pastor and honour him for choosing to pour out his life for others rather than advancing his own goals. Be gracious, recognizing that your pastor is just as human as you are. Bring genuine concerns directly to your pastor, as you should with any other believer. Examine your own heart before God and seek to live in unity with other believers. Ultimately we are each accountable to God. “I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called, 2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; 3 Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” (Ephesians 4:1-3).