HH, Sir Godfrey Gregg D.Div
I want to shift a little and talk about friendship. We all have a friend of some sort and we have rules of the friendship that will make it last or serve its purpose. My brothers and sisters in Christ let us look at a few things and see where we are fitting in this picture. So I will try to give you some key points to a good and decent friendship.
• Be friendly. The Bible shows that to have friends, we must be friendly ourselves (Proverbs 18:24). To begin any friendship, someone must break the ice and try to connect. Yet with so many selfish people looking to take advantage of others, it is no wonder some don’t want to risk a potential confrontation. The key to unlocking the door to someone’s protective shield might be as simple as a smile, a kind word or a willingness to offer a helping hand.
• Love your neighbour as yourself. This command of God ensures that we make an effort to build relationships and develop concern for others. Love is an outgoing concern, the opposite of selfishness. If you want to be lonely all your life, just focus continually on yourself.
• Think the best, not the worst. Give people a chance by getting to know them as individuals. It’s easy to discount someone of another race or ethnic origin, from another school, etc. Don’t judge someone until you get to know him or her. You will be surprised how people can be different from what you imagined. I know about it and I have come to the conclusion that I am not different. Within me lies a real and different person and I cherish this to my parents, my spiritual parents, my Patriarch and above all my God who is the Head of my life.
• Learn to be generous. Giving is a way of life, and little gifts of listening, helping and showing concern go a long, long way in relationships. The Bible says, “What is desired in a man is kindness” (Proverbs 19:22). A good way to begin a positive relationship is to invest in it. This takes effort. Give a compliment, a note or a small gift. Sharing with someone can be the door that opens an opportunity to get to know another person at a deeper level. Yes, my brothers and sisters in Christ we are all gifted in many different ways. Learn to listen, pay a visit to your friend/s, give a little gift, go out for lunch or dinner, to the park or some eventful place.
Friendships often begin with shared experiences. Doing wholesome and exciting things together can build powerful bonds. Each year remember your friends birthday, You can participate in challenge and adventure activities that build strong friendships. We learn so much about each other when we have a common goal, work together and depend on each other as we do at these special times.
These experiences are often the beginning of good, healthy, lifelong relationships. If you haven’t been involved, why not give it a try? If you are older, there are many other challenging venues to explore that can also provide opportunities to make friends. Let’s start a friendship circle and tell email me next year and tell me about the progress.