HH, Sir Godfrey Gregg D.Div
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What You Should Know About The Danger Of Gossip
It’s been said, knowledge is power. Unfortunately, many people like to spread damaging information or intimate details about others, whether true or not. This is what is called gossip. It used to be that people called gossip, dishing the dirt. Whatever it’s called, people use gossip to hurt people, in order to feel good about themselves and to feel like they have power over others.
If you know something juicy someone did over the weekend, it’s easy to feel like you have to tell others. We especially like it when we hear something that makes someone look bad. Celebrity bloggers, talk shows, and gossip magazines make millions of dollars off of this unfortunate reality. I’m sure you’ve encountered gossip. Some people seem to thrive on it.
It’s time for you to decide you don’t want to have any part of it.
The most dangerous part about gossip is that it steals another person’s reputation. A reputation is very fragile. When you gossip, you are helping to destroy something extremely valuable. An anonymous blogger wrote: After telling my best friend, it leaked that I tried [cutting] once. Everyone thought I was even more of a freak.
If you think it’s time for you to decide you don’t want to have any part of gossip, here are some tips on how to do it
1) Make a commitment you’re not going to gossip.
Even though the temptation to gossip is powerful, you will always win when you choose not to use it. And really, with all gossip, there’s no way of knowing for sure what is true or not. Paul wrote: I admit that I love spreading rumours. It’s all about telling lies about someone you don’t like. It usually works. That’s the problem, it does work, almost every time.
The most dangerous part about gossip is that it steals another person’s reputation.
2) Don’t listen to others when they gossip
Gossip grows an audience. You simply being there listening to it adds to its appeal. If someone starts to tell you something gossipy, say, I’m sorry, but I don’t feel comfortable talking about this person when they’re not here to defend themselves. Not only will you break the gossip chain, but you also will gain the trust of other people, as someone who won’t spread rumours.
With all gossip, there’s no way of knowing what is truth or lies.
3) Don’t judge people based on gossip.
If you should hear gossip about someone you don’t know, you have two choices: allow the gossip to determine what you believe, or let your own personal experience determine what you think. The first time you have an experience with someone that is contrary to the gossip you’ve heard, you’ll be a lot more careful about spreading or believing gossip the next time you hear it.
Get to know someone with a clear and open mind before you come to a conclusion based on what you hear. I assure you that you may have a different approach to the person who started the gossip. Give a person the chance to prove who they are and you will be glad you did.
4) Think before you speak.
Before you repeat something you’ve heard about another person, think: does this really do any good for me to spread this information? Or am I just trying to be in the know? Is the information even true? Could I be hurting someone by telling this, even if it’s true? If the person you are talking to is not part of the problem or part of the solution, there’s no need to tell them anything.
Don’t associate with people who find such great joy in belittling others.
5) Stay away from people who gossip to you they will gossip about you. Don’t associate with people who find such great joy in belittling others. Be very careful about what you choose to tell these people. If it’s a close friend, you might consider saying how you want to stop spreading gossip, and that you’d really like her help.
There’s an old saying, stick and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me. That’s not true. Being gossiped about can be extremely painful. If you don’t want it done to you, don’t do it to others. In the end, it never pays to gossip.
Let me assure you that it is a very hard job to repair someone’s reputation and even harder for that person to recover. It takes months and even years. I was there so I can testify and sometimes I just stay to myself with God. Though I feel like I have recovered I still feel the pain it caused me. But this one thing I know that Goe is more than able to deliver. I forgive and forgive and walk in the vocation wherein I was called.